For the ladies...........

You walk down a street in your city or town. As you walk men whistle or throw comments at you like hello sweetie, good day good loooking etc. Are you flattered or do you feel harassed and why ?

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Comments (33)

  1. WalkinOnSunshine

    I’m flattered as long as its just a whistle and a hello or wave. Anything further…I wouldn’t appreciate because they could possibly or probably be looking for more…ain’t gonna happen.

    October 29, 2014
    1. keepingitreal_13

      Agreed. It’s all in the manner in which the comment is given and in the case of some ladies who is making the comment.

      October 29, 2014
    2. infinityentrapped

      I completely agree with this one. Although I don’t appreciate a whistle because in my opinion it’s a bit primitive. Stare at me, sure. Wave, even blow a kiss. But I agree with you, anything further is not acceptable and may possibly result in a mouthful of asphalt.

      October 30, 2014
      1. keepingitreal_13

        And so it should, good for you.

        October 30, 2014
  2. withwings

    Its not a flattering approach and I’m not understanding the dynamic of it. Is it for their friends benefit? Do they feel they are being flattering? Never sure. I just ignore it.

    October 29, 2014
    1. keepingitreal_13

      In my past, distant past i have made a comment to a lady passing by and often i was alone so it wasn’t for anyone else’s benefit. If a good looking lady passes by and she’s well groomed i don’t see it as harassment if someone makes a flattering comment. Now i understand one has to be mindful not to be rude or suggestive but a cheery " looking good " should not be so quickly written off as harassment.

      October 29, 2014
      1. withwings

        I wasn’t saying anything about harassment. It feels out of line. I prefer the approach of hello in any instance rather than someone mentioning what I look like. Its not about harassment thats why I just ignore it.

        October 29, 2014
        1. keepingitreal_13

          Ok…so lets look at this way. You spend a considerable amount of time getting ready with all you do and you head out. Would you like to know all your efforts were worth it ? A simple " looking good " should make one feel good just so long as it’s given by some that also respectable in appearance.

          October 29, 2014
          1. withwings

            Well, many women dont spend a considerable amount of time getting ready including myself. I’m pretty sure I know what I look like when I do go out and no I’m not looking for validation for that from some person on the street.
            But besides that
            I was answering your posed question, I’m not flattered nor do i feel harassed. I don’t get it. You keep telling me how I should feel or how I should view it. lol I’m sorry i don;t agree and this is your post so I’ll just shhh for you. I’m not that concerned, I know it will happen on occasions because we’re dealing with people in a world and behaviors aren’t always what I prefer. I can live with that.

            October 30, 2014
            1. keepingitreal_13

              Ok….i was not TELLING YOU anything i was posing a situation to you. Ok so you don’t agree, that’s marvelous. Excuse me for trying to understand the mindset behind your opinion. Rest assured it won’t happen again.

              October 30, 2014
          2. withwings

            No worries thanks

            October 30, 2014
  3. old_fashion_lady

    To be honest, with the majority of females it depends, especially where I’m from. If the guy is sorta ‘hobo’ looking, it’s harassment. If he is super good looking, then super flattering. If he is in between then it depends on whether that particular female finds him attractive. With me, I have to be in the mood for flattery. If not, not matter what they look like, they better keep some distance.

    October 29, 2014
    1. keepingitreal_13

      So it could all depend on the guy’s appearance and the ladies frame of mine ?

      October 29, 2014
      1. old_fashion_lady

        yes lol

        October 31, 2014
  4. Somnium

    I am too shy to make such comments, but if I was to do it it would be in a respectful, brief and flattering manner. I saw that video in the news today and those guys were really pushy and inappropriate. Cat calls!

    October 29, 2014
    1. keepingitreal_13

      I think the video you’re talking about was the inspiration behind this post. The one’s on that video were rude and disrespectful and ignoring those guys was the right thing to do. Most of the times i’ve done it i got at least a smile and several times i got a " thank you ". At you time did i ever get a " f_ _ k you ".

      October 29, 2014
      1. keepingitreal_13

        I meant…. at no time. Sorry.

        October 29, 2014
  5. dincali

    that doesn’t happen to me, ever, so i’d prob think it wasn’t me.

    October 30, 2014
    1. keepingitreal_13

      Don’t sell yourself short. They could be thinking it.

      October 30, 2014
      1. dincali

        i don’t think so, but thanks.

        October 30, 2014
  6. TinkerHale

    I’ve had that happen a few times. It depends on the man. For instance, a really “old timer” tipped his hat and wished me a “good day” and I took it as a polite gesture because I believe he was raised to respect women. On the other hand, I’ve had younger men leer at me while “wolf whistling” and I get offended. Then there’s “the bold and the obnoxious” who come right out and make a pass at me which I find insulting. I usually look at them and say, “Really kid? I’m old enough to be your grandmother!”

    October 30, 2014
    1. keepingitreal_13

      What i remember of my dad is that when out he always had his fedora. And passing a lady he would often tip his hat or touch the brim.
      The " wolf whistlers and leer’s " are truly obnoxious and are not worthy of a response of any kind. I have actually seen one lady walk up and slap a guy across the face for a comment he made. I don’t know what was said but it must have been really rude and offensive.

      October 30, 2014
      1. TinkerHale

        Dan: That sounds like something I would have done when I was a younger woman!

        October 30, 2014
        1. keepingitreal_13

          And nobody would have blamed you.

          October 30, 2014
          1. TinkerHale

            October 30, 2014
  7. cjb321
    Just a whistle?? I was always flattered. I would just smile and keep walking. lol

    October 30, 2014
    1. keepingitreal_13

      Yes i believe most would. As i man if i saw someone nice looking i would smile or say something non offensive. And why shouldn’t i ? It’s not like i’m going to propose marriage or suggest a one night stand.

      October 30, 2014
  8. keepingitreal_13

    I guess it really depends on who does it and what was said. I think it also depends on the type of lady as well. Some would smile and continue when given a nice comment while others would stick their noses up further in the air and totality ignore the most pleasant of comments.

    October 30, 2014
  9. Leighvitalone

    No one, man or woman, should comment on a complete strangers appearance.

    October 30, 2014
    1. withwings

      Agree with that wholeheartedly

      October 30, 2014
  10. GoldenPig2012

    Just one, I’d smile and feel good no one noticed my bad hair day. Over and over? Irritated. Do men who do this think or hope it will actually pay off for them in some way?

    October 30, 2014
    1. keepingitreal_13

      The times i did it i never hoped to gain anything from it and would have been totally shocked if something was ever presented to me. I did it because i was impressed with the appearance of a certain lady. Not that she needed me to be impressed with her appearance one bit. Of course some of the " nose in the air " ladies most likely need not to worry about that. No man in their right minds should want to pay attention to any snot nosed bitch.

      October 30, 2014
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